All of our creations, including our children, have a life force of their own. In order for them to reach their full potential, we must eventually release our control over them and let them go! - Dr. Christiane Northrup

I really feel its this control that parents want to enforce, that cause a lot of anxiety with kids and make life more stressfull, that keep us from going with the flow. A lot of conflict between husband and wife are also caused by this control issue.

Wanting to be always right as a parent , may come from our experiences, but if we learn from our experiences ,then when does our children get to learn their lessons if we always want to take over the control or make decisions on their behalf.

We as parents mostly want to protect our children and therefore want to take cotrol over their lives but do we take their emotions and feelings into consideration?

I do know in my case , my husband want to have that control but more for himself and for his own concerns than that what matters for my boys or daughter. Thus I feel it is taking away from the lessons they are supposed to learn.

At the same time , yes there must be some control in certain cases but the question is how far do you take that? When do you let go of control and when do you take control... that... is very difficult as a parent to maintain the balance or decision.

In some cases I would feel, LET GO, its ok, but then my husband will come in and turnaround the decision and will take control over again. But its here where over controlling can get smothering of another persons spirit, soul or growth. Here I feel one can take the step back and give your children the chance to learn lessons and have experiences of their own. Are we taking opportunities away for them to grow faster and have experiences faster and become independant and more wiser quickly.

I know for certain that I did the most growth when my parents got divorced and I was by myself for 2 years before leaving school, having to make my own decisions, not having a parent looking over my shoulder all the time to repremand me or wanting to control my life at that point. It taught me lessons I would not have had if the were on my case all the time.

But God give us opportunity all the time so we can't get locked into this control, at some point the parents will have to Let Go in order for them to grow as well as parents, souls and spirit... to become more enriched with lessons in that field again. Being Human and non judgemental, to Love and have peace... to live and accept ourselves and our fellow beings.....thats our main mission on earth.

Wow, this morning I feel revived after we had such an awesome , warm hearted, energised family get togerther last night. This morning and last night on the way home I realised how much I have missed it. This was how I grew up in a big family always visiting with each other, braaiing together, celebrating life or death.

Just all the energy that was in the room (it was awesome), last night made me stand up early and refreshed this morning. Its unbelievable to have the love energy around of loved ones, it really does revive ones spirit.

In this case we were coming together early the morning, travelled some distance and laid my Aunts ashes to rest. All her 6 kids and their spouses and some of the Aunts, Uncles and cousins of all ages were there. The kids travelled down from Namibia to the Cape and travelled further to Riviersonderend (a small town on the Garden Route or about 2 hours away from Somerset West).
 Here we had a small sermon (even the sermon was great, it was sad but it gave us time to have closure on another Aunt that passed on, on the same day as this Aunt. We all could not attend her funeral and in this sermon we were surely having her in our mind as well) and then travelled back again to Somerset West.

We all closed off the day, with the braai together at my one cousins house last night and really it was awesome. Even my kids which is not use to having these big family get togethers were saying "How much they enjoyed it". At that point I was really appreciating my big family that I grew up in and just realised the love I had experienced as kid.

Between all of this, another family or friends of my cousin, were staying over at them, we all were able to lighten up their day for a moment , taking the focus of a mother, sister and friend lying very seriously ill, in hospital with cancer. We just wanted to make it more bearable for them, because she has been struggling now for quite a few years with this disease. May God Bless her and may her wishes and prayers be heard!

All our spirits mingled and everyone was supporting each other, exchanging ideas, giving advise on problems in our lives, laughed a lot together and just in all celebrated being family and reminisent on those that has passed on. Even differencexs in each other were nothing compared to being there.

Of Course , I nearly forget,the food also made a big part of it, we were celebrating eating, great braaivleis, salads, Pap Tart, Sago Pudding and so much more. Last night food was least of all the shortages in our lives.

We stil have much much more family all over Namibia and South Africa, but this was just a small spot of all that is still there. Enjoy and appreciate all the time that are given to you by the universe and God to spend with your families, they are precious and those times spend together, cant be bought by money, those experiences are priceless, no one can put a price on it, it is so valuable.

WOW what a month in Sept09, I cant believe its been 2 months since I last changed my notes heading. This last month was defininately again one of those upside down, fast creation, changing lots all around months. With retrograde in the stars we have to keep ourselves in, not to make major decisions. I have been feeling it but so has also a lot of other people.
I have decide to start doing blog entries , as to help me structure my thoughts on major changes happening to me and my family but also small changes, some maybe positive (hopefully more of those and some maybe be more negative , dealing with live, figuring it out as we go along living it.)
At 1st I thought where can I setup a blog and then it hit me, why look for someplace else, I have the perfect website and community where I have blogging available to me , why not use it!
Another reason for wanting to start blogging is also to journal entries to make better review decisions on changes in my & my family's life.
Furthermore also to accumulate all the spiritual knowledge I have acquired this last 2 years from books I have read websites I have visited, video clips I have watched and information exchanged with friends - together in one place to bounceback and witness the change happening in my life and in the world.

I would like to have the wisdom to understand the thinking of Teenagers or young adults. (mine 16 was rebelling this whole year and has run away today - should I be mad, thats what my whole being act towards now, this is after the frustration of not being able to get him to come back home; just love him is what my spiritualism teaches me , let him be, its what he has created and wants - but the mother in me tells me to worry and pray that he is save, and that I should be searchig for him more, but believe tells me have faith ,his with a friend, his safe, well thats my hope)You know if I had the wisdom to know how to act with Teenagers maybe this could have been avoided.

As well as why people get hooked or addicted to smoking, alchohol, drugs, etc.(Which might be part of his problem)

Also I would love to learn how to keep being ,acting from source all the time and not out of alignment.Especially in difficult situations like these.